WOW!!! 36 years of being married ... n they have known each other more than 40 years...that's a lifetime for sum of us ...living with my parents and seeing how they treat each other sumtimes makes me wonder whtr marriage can get any better...my parents are not perfect but they are the best and i think my mom supports my dad in every-way that she can thruout the marriage...
my parents have gone tru alot together...my mom especially...she left her family in Singapore to find a job in KL and it was bcoz of the job, she found my dad!!! as corny as it sounds, my mom was working as an operator with Telekom in late 1960s and among d things that she had to do was to connect calls from one place to another...one day my dad called n asked that his call is connected from KL to Penang....after making d same call for a few days/weeks? ...my dad asked my mom out and my mom said yes......yes, it's sooooooooo corny coz i dont think i wld have accepted such invitation... but i guess things were simpler then compared to now (no wonder i'm still single!!!).
My parents got married on 04.08.1972 in Malacca where my mom originated and my dad held his reception in Dewan Dato'Keramat in KL despite coming from Penang...few months after that they flew to London together where my mom worked and my dad studied. My parents returned to KL in late 1975 a few months after my brother was born while my sister & i were born 4 years after my bro.
My dad works hard and my mom seldom complains...despite the fact that my dad remarried when i was hardly 6 years old, my mom still hardly complained...she did what she had to do as a wife and a mother...bring us up, send us to school, tuition and watever xtra-curiculum activities that my bro, sis & i may have. she made sure we are taken care of without bothering my dad unless she has too coz she understood his work...building up your own business is not an easy task which i only learn to understand and appreciate when i started working few years back...
My mom had never made us hate or dislike my dad for having remarried again and have 3 other sons...in fact she actually made us take a family trip together when i was about 16 yrs (w/out d other wife of course...that'll be tooo much for me to handle) juz becoz my dad suggested it. till today if i ever were to call my dad o visit him at the other house, it is only becoz my mom made me to....i'm d difficult one in the famiy i have to admit that...unlike my brother who is the dutiful son...
I think my parents biggest challenge was not the fact that my dad remarried again and my mom have to accept and live with that fact for the rest for her life....it was not even the fact that my dad was a bankrupt for a few years and they had to struggle to bring up 2 family and rebuild the business again... my parents biggest challenge came when their daughter, my twin sister passed away on 03.06.1997....the challenge was not only to cope with Hafizah's unexpected death but also to keep the family together despite the fact that my brother was in the States and me in college....
We hardly spoke of Hafizah...i think its because no matter how close we are and how we have over-come the distance & barrier that might have been there when Hafizah passed away...it is still very painful for us to talk about her...i know it has been more than 10 years since she's been gone but which parent can bear the toughest task of burying your own child?
My brother and i work hard to ensure that we make our parents happy and proud of us...we work hard to give them what they needed the most...our time and love...nothing less nothing more and we will keep on doing that...
So on this 36th years of marriage there is nothing that i would do to change my relationship with my mom coz i think we are doing good...but i would love to mend watever gap there maybe between me and my old man... as a child i expected alot form him when when he doesnt deliver, i resent him for it...my dad tries his best to mend things with me but my ego is as big as Everest and i need to do sumthg about it so that i dont regret about it later..
To Mama & Papa...Happy 36th Anniversary...my hope and prayers are for more good years to come for us and that Allah bless both of you and our family with happiness, laughter, excellent health, good fortune and wealth...36 years together and we are so imperfectly perfect and i love you for that...thank you very much for all that you have done and given me....i do love you!
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